Tag: self love

Mindset Monday 3/27/2023

Mindset Monday

Good morning and Happy Monday!!

You asked for it, and Monday Mindset is back.

This week’s mindset is inspired by one of my bonus kids.
She is a new mom, and those of us that have had babies know the transition of caring for another human, recovering physically and mentally from labor, and the lack of sleep creates a cocktail of self-doubt.
What advice would you give her?
When is a time you needed to change your self-talk?
Is this an area you need help and support in?
Grab a cup of coffee or tea, and let’s talk about it

30 Day Self-Love Journey

Happy February!

Show yourself a little self-love this month.

Join us on Facebook in the Coffee Peace N Homesteadin Wellness Group for daily posts and support.

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Or print and check off each practice as you go. Show yourself some love, you deserve it!

Today in my 90 Day Challenge group, we focused on the importance of gratitude. For me, gratitude has been the biggest factor in helping me live a life of joy and happiness.

But how, you may wonder will gratitude help you lose weight or workout more.

I believe that everything is mindset.

When you are white knuckling your way through “I have to lose weight” “I have to exercise”, I don’t believe you are setting yourself up for long term success.
You may reach your goal, but without gratitude, without joy, what will keep you wanting to maintain that goal?

Gratitude is also the easiest practice that you can start and maintain. All you have to do is be grateful in that moment. No matter what the circumstance or what is happening, there is something to be grateful for. A lesson learned. Your life experience has made you who are in this moment which is an amazing person. Wanting grow and change is also amazing!

So how do you start. When you open your eyes in the morning, “I am grateful for this day.”
When you make your bed “I am grateful for a comfortable, warm, safe place to sleep.” If your kitchen that was clean when you went to bed now has dirty dishes “I am grateful for dishes to wash and clean water to use to wash them”. For each time during the day a negative thought or frustration comes, we can reset by just looking at it through gratitude.

So when we don’t want to do the hard workout, you can look back to your morning for inspiration. “I made my bed, I drank my water, I had a healthy breakfast, now I GET to move my body. I get to be strong and healthy for the people I love in my life , I get to be strong and healthy for me.”

Being grateful for having clean food choices to make, for water to drink, to be able to workout, to have a home to clean, to have a bed to sleep in, takes us from feeling like we are living a life of lack but to a place of abundance. And I do believe when we attract abundance in one area of our life, it spills into all the other areas of our life.

I am grateful for each and everyone of you reading this. I hope your day is filled with gratitude and abundance.

Be The Example

Today I was working out and my granddaughter asked what I was doing. I told her was working out and when she asked why, I said to be strong. Then she said “Stella is strong” and started working out with me.

Body confidence and positivity starts with us. Our children and grandchildren are watching and listening.

I get to workout to be able to pick up and play with my grandchildren.

Forget the scale or fitting into a certain size. What in your life is important to you that you need to be healthy to enjoy it. Make that your why.

Be strong, be confident. You deserve it.

National Inner Beauty Day

Today is National Inner Beauty Day! With all of the chaos and confusion of life recently, it is easy to lose track of ourselves. We need to remember to shine a light on what is inside of us that makes us special and unique. As we look at the world around us to find beauty, in a sunrise or sunset, a flower on a daily walk, a small child’s smile…..we all have beauty inside of us as well. By embracing and honoring that inner beauty, we stop searching and can begin to enjoy the journey.

Today I challenge you to write down 5 things about yourself that reflect and acknowledge your inner beauty.

Food For The Soul

_ Food For The Body Is Not Enough. There Must Be Food For The Soul_ Dorothy Day

Lately, I have been so focused on food. What to eat, when to eat, guilt eating with my husband, one day deciding to just eat to be happy, next looking at my body wanting to make changes…all the while neglecting what is most important. Fulfilling my soul.

I like so many of you start a good habit, journaling, meditating, working out, eating clean and then we get distracted. One day snowballs into many and we feel overwhelmed, stressed, anxious, questioning ourselves. All because we didn’t the 5, 10, 15 minutes to feed our soul and set our day up for success. Or at the end of the day I go over what I didn’t get done on my to-do list instead of giving myself credit for all I did accomplish.

Even things that bring me joy, I feel “bad” for not doing them. “You didn’t write on the blog. You didn’t read that library book You didn’t choreograph a new song for class.”  How can I be creative if I make the things I love a “job”, just another thing on my to-do list?

A couple weeks back my husband and I were in a fight and not speaking. My son who I had not seen in 6 months let me know that he his trip home had been extended again. I looked at the text and the Christmas tree still up, started crying and knew, I needed to go.

I looked up flights and found a ticket in my budget at time that I could actually take time off work. and I booked it. Knowing that I might only get to see my son briefly in the evenings. That I would be in a town I have never been to and that I would not know anyone.

So here I am in Jacksonville, NC. It has been what most would consider a boring trip to this point but it has been just what I needed. I read a book on the plane that I bought myself before Christmas. Then I watched a movie that have been wanting to see for months. I landed, had dinner with my son and got to hear about his new roommate and a training he is gearing up to go out in the field for. Meaning he will be off the grid and I won’t even get the one word texts  get now for weeks at a time. We checked into my room and he opened his Christmas. The look on his face made me so happy that I did not mail them but stuffed them into my carry-on.

As I knew may happen, his time off was not approved and he had to go back to base. The next day it rained all day. So, I slept in, binge watched bad TV shows and did my online volunteer work, without guilt. At home I feel bad about what I don’t get done because of volunteering or I feel bad that I did not help enough volunteering because I was busy at home. Again, something I started because it makes me happy to help others. I ate oatmeal at breakfast even though I didn’t work out and I had M&M’s in the afternoon. Then I got dressed, went to a box store just to wander, no shopping list to check off and then dinner with my son. Another evening of great conversation. He went back to base and I had another night of sleep hogging all the pillows.

Today I woke up, ready for a quick workout in my room, not because I had to, because I wanted to. Now I am in a bookstore cafe, with a new mystery novel recommended by one of the staff. I loved mysteries as a kid and don’t read them as an adult. I took it as a sign from the universe that it is time. Also 3 people walked by me saying how great of a book it is. I sat down with a latte and felt inspired to write. So, here I am, waiting for a text from my son, ready to spend the weekend together. Also grateful for the time to just be quiet. To not feel bad for not meditating or reading or doing the things I “should” have done and letting them become the things I want to do again.

We need to feed our bodies and our souls. Not with guilt and regret but with love and acceptance. I hope this weekend you find the space to feed your soul, no matter what that looks like for you.